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Celebrating Women’s History Month with Cacique

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  “A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it’s in hot water.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Hey babes! Happy Monday and Happy Women’s History Month! Can you believe it’s March already? 2020 is really flying by!

The above quote by Eleanor Roosevelt has always been one of my favorites. It honestly couldn’t be more true. After an incredibly tough 2019, I declared this my Comeback Season. (A reference to rapper/singer/actor, Drake’s 2007 mixtape.) Despite having what felt like a ton of bricks fall on my head last year and dealing with it almost totally alone, I’ve come to realize that I’m stronger than I ever could have imagined. I’ve been told over and over again by those who know my story that I’m an absolute badass for taking so many challenges head on with next to zero support. Pushing forward without any family, let alone my two pillars (my dad and my grandma who passed away in 2019 and 2017, respectively), has been incredibly difficult. But, I’m a fighter and I’m stubborn (#Taurus), so I refuse to give up.

One thing that has really helped me keep on keeping on has been prioritizing my self-care. Besides meditation, prayer, going to therapy and grief group and working with crystals and oracle cards, I’ve been intentionally shrinking my social circle, weeding out people (genuinely good people, don’t get me wrong) who just aren’t on my wavelength right now. My Sundays are now exclusively for self-care/self-love, so I give myself 24 hours to do absolutely nothing except what my spirit calls for. Usually that entails a long, hot bath or shower, lathering my skin with my favorite body cream, wearing my comfiest PJs, a face mask, some yoga or light stretching, chill music, hot tea, homemade brunch and a good book. I am incredibly intentional about who I spend my time with these days. And, on Sundays, it’s usually just Valentino (my adorable chihuahua pomeranian rescue/side kick) and me.

Another part of my self-care practice is treating myself to things that genuinely make me feel good. This includes comfortable, quality undergarments like the Cacique ‘So Light Boost Plunge Bra,’ their Extra Soft Cheeky Panty (both in ‘Cafe Mocha’) and this French Terry Sleep Robe (in Heather Gray) that I’m wearing here.

As you probably know by now, I’m a huge Lane Bryant fan and I absolutely adore their intimates line, Cacique. The fit and quality of their clothing and undergarments is one of the best—hands down!

What I love most about this bra is that it’s a boost bra (read: cleavage-making) with a plunge neckline and a light-as-a-feather feel that still provides lift, support and a shape that I love. Unlike a lot of boosting or push-up bras that feel heavy, the So Light Boost Plunge Bra is nearly weightless and has a super-smooth finish. There is no side boning and it features stay-put straps which give a more flexible and comfortable fit.

This bra is perfect for low-cut tops and dresses or for lounging around while looking as sexy as can be! (If you’re wanting more coverage, they also sell a lightly lined t-shirt bra.) Band sizes range from 34-46 and cup sizes range from B-H. Virtually anyone can enjoy the supportive, sexy comfort this bra provides!

So, if you’re in need of some spoiling, head on over to Lane Bryant/Cacique and treat yo’ self right this minute! You absolutely deserve it.

xoxo,

Amy (a.k.a. The Chief of Style)

 

The Chief of Style in Lane Bryant Cacique So Light Soft Plunge Plus Size Bra, Panties, and Bathrobe

The Chief of Style in Lane Bryant Cacique So Light Soft Plunge Plus Size Bra, Panties, and Bathrobe

The Chief of Style in Lane Bryant Cacique So Light Soft Plunge Plus Size Bra, Panties, and Bathrobe

The Chief of Style in Lane Bryant Cacique So Light Soft Plunge Plus Size Bra, Panties, and Bathrobe

The Chief of Style in Lane Bryant Cacique So Light Soft Plunge Plus Size Bra, Panties, and Bathrobe

 

Thank you to Lane Bryant for sponsoring this post. As always, all views expressed are my own.

Photography by Rebekah Maynard.

What Queer Femmes of All Sizes Should Wear to Show Their LGBTQ+ Pride

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“If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?” –Ru Paul

I really love this time of year! It’s June, meaning it’s officially summer and LGBTQ+ Pride month; time for rainbows, parades and dancing in the street (covered in glitter, of course).

I have a love-hate feeling about the corporatization of all things LGBT (and sometimes Q) by companies looking to profit from a community with a long history of struggle with no awareness or appreciation for the activists who are responsible for the progress we’ve made toward equality. Namely, Black and Brown transwomen. The first Pride was a riot, after all. However, I sincerely appreciate brands that give back to queer communities through contributions to LGBTQ non-profits such as the It Gets Better Project, True Colors United and the Ali Forney Center, for example.

Most of my love for rainbow everything comes from wanting access to clothing and accessories that will allow me to show my Pride and also read hella gay. It may sound silly, but when you’re femme and no one can tell by looking at you, it can feel empowering AF to wear a universal queer symbol. It’s sad, but true.

What’s even more tragic is a lot of LGBTQ+ Pride wear isn’t made in plus sizes. While 68% of American women wear a size 14+, according to Racked, plus size clothing only makes up 2.3% of the selection at major retailers. And, from my own (admittedly un-scientific, yet probably still very accurate) assessment, there weren’t many size inclusive options for plus size folx to show their pride this year.

One exception is well-known plus size retailer Lane Bryant‘s lingerie brand, Cacique (which is known for its high quality and recently expanded size range to include even more sizes: 0-28!). This year, they designed a collection of several absolutely adorable bra/panty sets and pajamas.

*See below for links to some of my favorite pieces from Cacique’s Pride collection!

I’m really excited to share that I was asked to model Cacique’s Pride collection this year! (Be a doll and leave some love on my IG: @chiefofstyle, Cacique’s IG: @caciqueintimaes and Lane Bryant’s IG: @lanebryant as well as on their Facebook and Twitter accounts!)

Cacique contributed 10% of the purchase price of their Pride collection (a total of $30K!) to GLSEN, which aims to end discrimination, harassment and bullying of LGBT students in school. Love!

Here are some of my favorite pieces from the Pride collection:

Pride to me means loving who you are (all parts of you), exactly how you are. Thanks to Cacique, no matter your size, you can show your Pride. And, just as sweet, know your dollars are going to a good cause!

Oh, and I almost forgot! Cacique and Lane Bryant are having a semi-annual clearance sale right now!

(Run, don’t walk!)

Chief of Style wearing Cacique by Lane Bryant LGBTQ Pride Collection with rainbow lace and hearts

Chief of Style wearing Cacique by Lane Bryant LGBTQ Pride Collection with rainbow lace and hearts

Chief of Style wearing Cacique by Lane Bryant LGBTQ Pride Collection with rainbow lace and hearts

Thank you to Cacique for sponsoring this post. As always, all views expressed are my own.

Spring Has Sprung With Talbots Modern Classic Style

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“Behold, my friends, the spring is come; the earth has gladly received the embraces of the sun, and we shall soon see the results of their love!”Sitting Bull 

Wearing florals during Spring is nothing new. Still, every year, this girl is florals obsessed from early Spring to late Summer. That’s why I’m in love with these new, size-inclusive flowery pieces from Talbots, like this Mosaic Floral Sateen Fit & Flare Dress. I paired it with their Wicker Turnlock Clutch and Rosalie Ankle-Strap Sandals in Nappa Leather. Perfect for a Mother’s Day celebration or brunch with friends, this is one of my new, go-to Springtime outfits.

This beautiful fit & flare dress is inspired by the floral-covered mosaic architecture on the Isle of Capri. (Ooh lah lah!) It features a self-tie belt that defines your waist for a shapely fit that looks lovely on EVERY body. It’s the perfect dress for an outdoor party or whenever you just feel like dressing up! And, best of all, it has pockets! (If you’ve been following me for some time, you know how much I love pockets in skirts and dresses.) It’s made up of a cotton and Spandex blend for optimum comfort. And, if it couldn’t get any better, it’s also machine washable!

Besides the well-made, classic styling Talbots is known for, they also carry a wide-range of sizes, including misses, plus, petite and plus petite! Their clothing is available in sizes 2-24. So, there’s definitely something for everyone!

Where would you wear an outfit like this? Let me know in the comments!

Thank you to Talbots and Stylinity for sponsoring this post.

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style at Beverly Hills City Hall wearing a spring mosaic dress by Talbots.

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style at Beverly Hills City Hall wearing a spring mosaic dress by Talbots.

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style at Beverly Hills City Hall wearing a spring mosaic dress by Talbots.

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style at Beverly Hills City Hall wearing a spring mosaic dress by Talbots.

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style at Beverly Hills City Hall wearing a spring mosaic dress by Talbots.

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style at Beverly Hills City Hall wearing a spring mosaic dress by Talbots.

Outfit details: Dress + Shoes + Bag

Photographer: Elizabeth Dixon (@elizabeth.dixon)

2019: My Year of Self-love

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“Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.” – Unknown

Happy 2019! I know we’re well into March and this is my first blog post of the year. I’d normally feel bad about this, but if you follow me on Instagram you know I’ve been busy…busy working on loving myself more. But not just saying it; really meaning it. I’ve been reading, meditating, reflecting, journaling, dedicating more time and energy into my self-care routine…oh, and doing a “love detox.” (I’ve deleted all of the dating apps from my phone because I’m taking a break from dating altogether.)

The beginning of the year is when most of us are focused on creating goals for our lives, careers, relationships, etc. Whether it’s making a vision board or just a quiet promise to ourselves, many of us make a list of a bunch of things we want to accomplish over the course of the next 12 months. I do it too and my list is usually very, very long. But, 2019 is different. This year, I decided to just make one goal/commitment: to simply loving myself more.

I’ve grown a lot over the past few years, specifically in the acceptance of my body. That’s how I got here and why you’re here, too (whether you know it or not). I started The Chief of Style with the intention of loving every dimple, wrinkle, fat roll, stretch mark and pimple…all of the physical stuff I spent years hating about myself. I’ve come SO far in that journey, but I still have a ways to go when it comes to loving myself. Like, I know I’m great and all, but I keep letting users and abusers into my life and I’m finally over it! I’m done putting everyone else (like the people I’m romantically involved with, in particular) before myself (and even sometimes my closest friends and family). Love is blind in more ways than one and I’ve really let one too many jerks keep me from not only seeing my own worth, but how much other people I care about care about me.

So, I made the decision on Valentine’s Day to stop dating for a while. And, I mean it. I’m going to stop putting all of my love, time, energy and resources into other people (who haven’t even proven they deserve it) and put it into myself. I’m also taking the time to process and face my traumas instead of pretending they never happened. It’s honestly pretty intense and a little scary, but I feel quite certain I will come out this much happier and emotionally healthier and stronger.

Part of my plan for loving myself more is taking myself on dates, treating myself to trips to the spa and destinations near and far and spending more time alone – and enjoying it! I used to do everything for my partner, including wearing sexy lingerie. But, now I’m even doing that for myself.

One of my favorite sources for budget-friendly, flirty lingerie is Yandy. They have beautiful pieces in a wide range of sizes, including plus sizes. I’m absolutely in LOVE with this “Bad Intentions” lingerie gown. It has detachable straps and a high waist panty. Wearing lingerie just for me is officially part of my self-care practice.

If you’re curious about Yandy, you can use my promo code for 20% off: chiefofstyle20

I’m curious…how do you practice self-love? Let me know in the comments! I can’t wait to learn some new tips. 🙂

xo

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Thank you to Yandy for sponsoring this post. As always, all views expressed are my own, true opinions.

Lane Bryant is Having a Major Black Friday Sale!

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One reason I look forward to Thanksgiving every year, besides seeing family and eating delicious food is because it means Black Friday (with all of its glorious sales) is upon us. This year, Lane Bryant is having some amazing deals on all of their brands in-store and online.

Throughout the week of Thanksgiving (11/21 – 11/26), take 40% off storewide and take advantage of can’t-miss these daily door busters! (Click on the links below to visit LB’s website.)

Wednesday (11/21): $15 Tee Shop Tees

Thursday (11/22): Online Only – All Bras $29.50 + Free Shipping Sitewide

Friday (11/23): All Bras $29.50; Select Sweaters $20

Saturday(11/24): All Jeans and Pants $39

Sunday (11/25): LIVI Hoodies $20

Monday (11/26): Online Only – Cacique Panties Buy 3, Get 3 Free, All Sweaters $30, All Boots 50% Off

Here are some shots I took in several of their door buster items.

What pieces are you most looking forward to snagging? I, for one, love LB’s Cacique bras and am OBSESSED with their jeans!! So, if you’re looking for either, I highly recommend you take advantage of this week’s sales!

Happy holiday season!

xo

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Thank you to Lane Bryant for supporting my blog by sponsoring this post.