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How to Maintain a Positive Attitude Even When Things Get Tough (Part 2)

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This is the second part of a two part series. To read the first 10 tips for staying positive, click here.

Feeling  down in the dumps, here are 10 more suggestions to get you back on track and feeling good again:

  1. Choose happiness. Happiness truly is a choice, so choose happy at every turn possible. When you start to feel your mood slipping, try and redirect your focus to something positive that will give you good feels. I’ve tried this trick and while it may seem silly or simple, it can really help.
  2. Move more. Even if you can’t peel yourself off of the couch or you’re ready to hit the gym, just move. Heck, you can start by grabbing a water bottle and raising your arm a few times to get your blood pumping. When you’re ready for more, do a few jumping jacks or pushups. And if you’re really motivated,
  3. Eat clean. Food truly is medicine. If your diet is full of crappy foods, you’ll likely feel crappy. If you’ve been in the dumps for a while, a change in your diet can make a huge difference. Give it a try, it can’t hurt.
  4. Mange your environment. Post positive affirmations in subtle (or not so subtle) places if that’s your thing. Fill your environment with what makes you happy.
  5. Listen to your favorite song. Speaking of managing your environment, music is a huge help. Create a playlist for your not-so-happy days and fill it with songs that’ll make you smile.
  6. Give/get a hug. I can’t argue the importance of physical touch enough. Hugs are so good for your health. I can tell when I haven’t had a hug in a while…I just feel meh. So, hug your friends, family, partner or anyone who’s down. A hug can go a long way.
  7. Find a pet or baby to love on. There’s a reason why people own pets. Having a dog has transformed my life in so many ways. Even on days when I’m not in the greatest mood, Valentino is right there wagging his tail, wanting to love me. (Really, how great are pets!?) Better yet, go on a walk or a hike where you can enjoy seeing your dog (or other people’s dogs) getting their entire LIFE. It’ll give you life too. 🙂
  8. Treat yo’ self. Love pampering? Go get a mani-pedi. On a budget? Do your own! Whatever it is you love, treat yo’ self and give yourself what you love most. You deserve it.
  9. Create a nighttime routine. Just like a morning routine, a nighttime routine will allow you to unwind and can add balance to your day. This is also a good time to prepare for the next day so when you wake up, you know exactly what you need to do.
  10. Check things off. Make a to do (or, “to choose”) list and cross each item off your list. Feeling productive can turn any bad mood around.When you’re feeling stuck, the best thing to do is to take action. DO something. Anything. 

The most important thing to remember is you’re not alone. Everyone has bad days, weeks, months…But, things will get better. They always do! I promise. <3

Chief of Style perfect figure Parfait Lingerie social media influencer partner

Chief of Style perfect figure Parfait Lingerie social media influencer partner

Chief of Style perfect figure Parfait Lingerie social media influencer partner

Chief of Style perfect figure Parfait Lingerie social media influencer partner

Chief of Style perfect figure Parfait Lingerie social media influencer partner

So, what are your tips for staying positive? Share them in the comments below! I can’t wait to read what you write. 🙂

I hope this my suggestions help you push through a rough patch should you have one. (Why not bookmark this page? Your future self will thank you!)

Thank you to Parfait Lingerie for sponsoring this post as part of their #PerfectFigure campaign. Here, I’m wearing the Tess Unlined Underwire Bra and the Tess Hipster Panty both in Bare (linked images below).

The bra features 95% modal cups, adjustable shoulder straps, sheer lace detail, a hook-and-eye closure and an accent bow at the center front. It’s luxuriously soft and one of my favorite bras from Parfait Lingerie!

 

How to Maintain a Positive Attitude Even When Things Get Tough (Part 1)

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Staying positive can be one of the most difficult things to do, but in my experience it’s critical if you want to achieve great things in life. I’m a firm believer that we reap what we sow, or receive what we put out into the world. Seriously, attitude is everything and when we’re negative, good things just won’t come. And if they do, we won’t appreciate or even recognize them.

Full disclosure: I’ve suffered from depression for most of my adult life, so I know how hard it can be to manage your thoughts and feelings. If you live with a mental illness, this list in no way attempts to minimize your very real feelings and experiences with self-help mumbo jumbo. But, it is my hope that by incorporating a few of these tips, you will start to feel a shift in your life and feel a bit more in control. As always, be kind to yourself should you decide to adopt one or more of these tips. Change takes time. <3

(For information about the Parfait Lingerie set I’m wearing, scroll to the bottom.)

That said, here’s what works for me:

  1. Start your day off right by creating a morning routine. Rituals are so very important. They provide stability and normalcy when things feel chaotic or stressful and can alleviate any extra energy put into deciding what to do next (because you’ve already mapped it out). There are plenty of life hack lists and self-help books that argue the importance of a morning routine.
  2. Remember that you create your own reality. If you want to see a brighter day, start by making the conscious choice to see one. You are the architect of your life. If something or someone is bringing you down, let it go. Only allow into your life what truly makes you happy.
  3. Be grateful. Gratitude is HUGE when you’re down in the dumps. Create a list of what you’re grateful for and read it back when you need a reminder of how lucky you are to be alive. There is so much to be thankful for if you look around you. Being reminded of your many blessings is sure to put things into perspective.
  4. Go on a media/social media diet. News (especially these days) can be so very negative. I can tell when I’ve been taking in too much bad news. (I can actually feel it in my body.) If you start to feel bad after consuming too much news or you find you’re comparing your life to others’ on social media, STOP IT RIGHT NOW. Unplug and go take a break. And, only plug back in when you’re in a better head space.
  5. Set aside some time to meditate. If you’re not familiar with how to meditate, start by closing your eyes and focusing on your breathing. I sometimes count my inhale (1…) and my exhale (2…) and then my inhale again (3…) and so on. When you get to 10, start over again. You can also use an app like Headspace (which I highly recommend) to get started.
  6. Seek outside support from friends and family. Sometimes just letting someone in and sharing your feelings can lift your spirits. That said, so as not to “dump” your probs on loved ones, consider getting a therapist. Personally, I love BetterHelp for that!
  7. Go outside and do something — anything! Just get out of your room, apartment…whatever and allow yourself to take a look at the beauty around you. Remember that everyone’s going through something. You’re not the only one dealing with stuff. But, life goes on and so will you.
  8. Do something you love. Remember that dance class you took as a kid or that sport you miss? Why not get some friends together or join a MeetUp group (or make your own!) and get back to doing what you love?
  9. Monitor your thoughts. They say thoughts become things and it’s really true. Start noticing how you speak to yourself. Notice any negative self-talk? Hating on yourself? STOP IT RIGHT NOW! You’re beautiful, sexy, handsome, fierce, fab…there is no need — and no time — to drag yourself down. Find something you love about yourself or the situation, etc. and reframe it. If you don’t like something within your control, then f-ing change it. Don’t complain. You’ve got this!
  10. Watch what you say. You’d be surprised how our own words can affect our outlook on life. Just as we create our own reality with our thoughts, our words are incredibly powerful. Take note of the words you use and if you find that you say, “I can’t…,” “I hate…” or “I’ll never…” or other negative things, turn it around and find a more positive way to talk about your situation. I promise, it’ll make a huge difference.

This was just Part 1 of this list. Stay tuned next week for Part 2! (I’ll link to it here when it’s up.)

What are your tips for staying positive? Share them in the comments below! I can’t wait to read what you write. 🙂

I hope this my suggestions help you push through a rough patch should you have one. (Why not bookmark this page? Your future self will thank you!)

Chief of Style in Parfait Lingerie talking about how to stay positive when things get tough

Chief of Style in Parfait Lingerie talking about how to stay positive when things get tough

Chief of Style in Parfait Lingerie talking about how to stay positive when things get tough

 

Thank you to Parfait Lingerie for sponsoring this post as part of their #PerfectFigure campaign. Here, I’m wearing the Aline Wire-Free Padded Bra and the Aline Bikini Brief both in Nude (linked images below).

The bra features molded microfiber cups, adjustable shoulder straps, a hook-and-eye closure, an accent bow at the center front and it’s made of nylon/spandex. Ooh lah lah! Parfait!

 

How to Tuck in Your Shirt When You’re Plus Size

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“Life is short, break the rules.” -Mark Twain

I’ve always detested fashion articles and blog posts that give rules (based on your size, shape, age, etc.). I have heard the rule that plus size women shouldn’t tuck in their t-shirts because they’ll show their tummy. {Cue eye roll} But, baby, I’m a rule breaker and I firmly believe that rules like this are meant to be broken. I won’t allow anyone to police my body or tell me how to wear my clothes and you shouldn’t either!

That said, let’s talk about tucked t-shirts, shall we?

There are a number of ways to tuck in a t-shirt. It’s a simple idea, but the smallest adjustment can totally change your look. Tucking in your shirt truly is an art and can be a bit daunting to some. So, I’m here to solve any confusion and help you decide how to tuck in based on the look you’re going for.

So, without further ado, let’s dive in!

The prep:

Tuck your shirt in tight so it almost looks like a bodysuit. This style is best worn with high and super high waisted jeans or a pencil skirt.

Five ways to tuck in a t-shirt for plus size women

The laid back cool:

Tuck the front half of your shirt in and leave the sides and back out. This is great for when you’re trying to show off that fierce belt you just bought.

Five ways to tuck in a t-shirt for plus size women

The blouse:

Tuck your entire shirt into your pants/skirt and then pull it out about half way. It will give it a blouse look and can change your entire look depending on how much — or how little — you pull out.

Five ways to tuck in a t-shirt for plus size women

The half moon:

Tuck just the front, middle section of your shirt in, leaving the everything else hanging out. This will make you look like you cared just enough, but not too much. It can have an effortless chic appeal if done right. This look works well with sweaters, too.

Five ways to tuck in a t-shirt for plus size women

The IDGAF:

Tuck in just one side of your shirt (this also works great for a button down shirt). This style ends up showcasing two different looks in one: exposing your belt and waist on one side while covering the other.

Five ways to tuck in a t-shirt for plus size women

Do you like to tuck in your shirts? What’s your favorite tuck style? Share in the comments!

 

The Importance of a Statement Piece

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“A simple hello could lead to a million things.” –Unknown

Hey, girl, hey!

I just got back from Hot Springs, Arkansas (Yes, Arkansas!) where the Journalism and Women Symposium (JAWS) held its annual non-conference-conference called the Conference and Mentoring Project (CAMP). The trip was quite fruitful: I spoke on a panel, made several professional connections, met some new friends, got a bunch of new followers, and made memories to last a lifetime! While there, I was reminded of something really valuable that I’d like to share with you: the importance of a statement piece!

Because I’m a style blogger, I tend to feel a bit more pressure than most to wear the perfect outfit when I attend events, etc. If I’m going to be photographed, I want to wear something that makes me feel my best and is a good representation of my blog/brand. (Some days it’s a dress with high heels and other days it’s skinny jeans and boots.) Although women with jaw dropping resumes come to CAMP every year, it’s not a pretentious environment at all and everyone dresses quite casually. As such, I decided to pack several dressed-down looks that still packed a punch, like this Eloquii PJ set.

Chief of Style Tip: When you’re going to a conference, networking event…or somewhere where you want to stand out, remember to wear a statement piece. It could be big earrings, a fancy jacket, a pin…whatever is appropriate for the occasion. Not only will you set yourself apart from the crowd, you won’t have to worry about how to approach people because people will almost always approach you first.

The Jawdesses (what we call ourselves) at CAMP absolutely LOVED my outfit. In fact, the entire weekend I hardly had to make an effort to talk to people because everyone kept coming up to me! (It was like magic.)

So, what do you think of my statement look? Have you ever worn a statement piece to standout? Did it work? Tell me about it in the comments!

xo

Eloquii plus size pj set

Eloquii plus size PJ set

Eloquii plus size pj set

Eloquii plus size pj set

Eloquii plus size pj set

Eloquii plus size pj set

 

Photographer: CJ Edwards-Acton

Outfit details: PJ set: Eloquii | Shoes: Chinese Laundry | Bag: Alexander Wang