“I love your stuff, but you don’t make my size.” — Jahn Hall (and just about every plus size person at one point or another)
Hi friends! How are you holding up? Did my post on the importance of self-love during the COVID-19 pandemic and quarantine ring true for you? Are you finding ways to enjoy this time rather than complain about it? I certainly hope so!
Out of sheer boredom (and because my friends have told me to do so for years), I created an Instagram account (@thebabyvalentino) for my chihuahua-pomeranian fur baby, Valentino. Take a look and follow if you love cute things! 🙂
Last weekend, I joined DapperQ’s Anita Dolce Vita, Dr. Van Bailey (Bklyn Boihood), Kay Ylanday Barrett and Jahn Hall in a virtual conversation about plus size inclusivity in queer fashion. So many great points were made! Here are a few takeaways:
- The majority of plus size fashion brands do not consider their LGBTQ+ customers.
- Most LGBTQ+ fashion brands do not offer extended sizing. (The same goes for sustainable fashion brands.)
- If you’re plus size and LGBTQ+, you will probably have to get creative if you want to look and feel like your best and most authentic self.
- Plus size LGBTQ+ folks shouldn’t have to work so hard just to feel good in the clothing they wear!
- Brands need to do better!
If you’ve got a minute, watch the entire panel discussion. For more on queer fashion, visit DapperQ
‘s website and follow them on Instagram
This post is in collaboration with Dubli.
Hey babes! I’m back with another post about Macy’s exclusive #TommyHilfiger Plus collection. This time, I’m rocking an adorable blue and white collared shirt dress (originally $100, but currently on sale for $60).
I recently wore this ensemble to brunch in Dumbo, Brooklyn during my trip to New York City. It was easy, breezy, comfortable and best of all, I felt so cute!
I paired the dress with my new favorite red heels and a red faux leather jacket. But, truthfully, the possibilities are endless with such a classic piece.
How would you style this dress? Let me know in the comments!
Photography by @M76Photo
This past weekend, I was in New York City to work with news outlet, Mic, on a self-love and body positivity campaign for Dove. In it, I talk about being a queer femme of color and what Pride means to me. I’m excited to share the final product with you.
I also had the chance to speak with real women about what this year’s Pride theme “Defiantly Different” means to them and what #RealBeauty really is. Check out the interviews on my Instagram (posted on 6/25).
Here are a couple of behind-the-scenes photos from the day.
Happy Pride, babes!
Hey babes! Exciting news – The Chief of Style was profiled last week in a “Fashion Blogger Friday” feature by The Curvy Fashionista! I’m a huge fan of the website, so it’s a big honor to have been interviewed. Here’s an excerpt:
TCF: What or who inspired you to become a fashion blogger? What led you to it?
Cos: I have always loved fashion – since I was a little girl. I’ve always loved the feeling of wearing something new (or new to me) and the power it gives you to create a new image each and every time if you want. It was only natural that I’d eventually blend my writing skills with my “passion for fashion” (especially when it became clear there was room in the body positivity and +size fashion space). Part of my fashion journey and style expression have also been, in part, related to my self-love journey.
The more I see myself in photos looking thick and curvy…and beautiful at the same time, the more I accept all of the parts of me I hated for so long. The idea first came to me, though, when I started selling vintage clothing on Poshmark and eBay while I was unemployed and living in Miami, Florida. It was my main source of income. I felt like I would have had even more success had I had an already established audience on another platform to drive customers to my store(s). Now, I have a quarter of a million followers on Poshmark, but I’m rarely on the app. (I really need to get back to it!)
TCF: What’s your favorite thing about being plus size?
CoS: In some ways, I think being plus size is the ultimate expression of feminism. Specifically, it means taking up more space in a world that tells women they should be small. Men are allowed to “man spread” on trains and buses, etc., allowing little room for a woman (or anyone else) to sit. As a bigger woman, I take up more space than the average woman and do so unapologetically. Being plus size and knowing you’re beautiful also flies in the face of established beauty standards for women. Wearing cute, sexy, fierce, etc. clothing when you’re thicker is basically a “F-you” to anyone who’d dare tell you you’re anything less than a damn goddess!
Click here to read more at TheCurvyFashionista.com.
The below photos were shot at Olvera Street in Downtown Los Angeles.
Outfit details: Top and skirt: Forever21+ | Shoes: Macy’s | Necklace: Amazon
Photographer: Jorge Lopez (IG: @jorgelopezmedia)
“When nothing is sure, everything is possible.” – Margaret Drabble
A while ago I had a heart-to-heart with my Dad about my career. I was lamenting that I’m not making as significant of an impact in the world as other people I know and as much as I wish I were. I told him that he saves lives (he’s a doctor) and all I’m doing is talking about clothes [and self love and body positivity, etc.]. His response? He said that he may be saving lives, but I’m helping make the world a more beautiful place in which to live.
Lately, I’ve been holding his words close to my heart. Despite what it looks like, the freelance struggle ain’t easy and I’ve considered taking opportunities that wouldn’t leave me much time to continue blogging. But, you know what, I just can’t give up on my mission to motivate and inspire other women going through similar struggles that I’ve gone through. I really love what I’m doing here at ChiefofStyle.com and on my Instagram. I’m loving the community I’m creating and the feedback I’m getting. I appreciate the DMs and the comments expressing solidarity. And I really love fashion too much to stop talking about it!
Sometimes, I do wonder if my life would have been easier if I had taken a more straightforward career path. If you want to be a doctor, for example, the path is laid out for you. But when you’re a journalist/communications professional/blogger/consultant, you’ve got to create your own path and that can be scary AF! Thing is, I really wouldn’t want it any other way. I truly think I was born to do exactly what I’m doing and I’m where I’m supposed to be.
We don’t all have the same talents and interests, but we can each make our mark and improve the world for the next generation in some way, big or small. That’s something to be proud of. If I can provide encouragement to even just one Native teen or young queer femme or newly plus size mother or anyone else struggling in some way…I will have done what I’m here to do.
I hope you’re doing what gives you joy and you spread it everywhere you go.
Outfit details: Dress: Eloquii | Earrings: Xehar | Shoes: DSW