“When nothing is sure, everything is possible.” – Margaret Drabble
A while ago I had a heart-to-heart with my Dad about my career. I was lamenting that I’m not making as significant of an impact in the world as other people I know and as much as I wish I were. I told him that he saves lives (he’s a doctor) and all I’m doing is talking about clothes [and self love and body positivity, etc.]. His response? He said that he may be saving lives, but I’m helping make the world a more beautiful place in which to live.
Lately, I’ve been holding his words close to my heart. Despite what it looks like, the freelance struggle ain’t easy and I’ve considered taking opportunities that wouldn’t leave me much time to continue blogging. But, you know what, I just can’t give up on my mission to motivate and inspire other women going through similar struggles that I’ve gone through. I really love what I’m doing here at ChiefofStyle.com and on my Instagram. I’m loving the community I’m creating and the feedback I’m getting. I appreciate the DMs and the comments expressing solidarity. And I really love fashion too much to stop talking about it!
Sometimes, I do wonder if my life would have been easier if I had taken a more straightforward career path. If you want to be a doctor, for example, the path is laid out for you. But when you’re a journalist/communications professional/blogger/consultant, you’ve got to create your own path and that can be scary AF! Thing is, I really wouldn’t want it any other way. I truly think I was born to do exactly what I’m doing and I’m where I’m supposed to be.
We don’t all have the same talents and interests, but we can each make our mark and improve the world for the next generation in some way, big or small. That’s something to be proud of. If I can provide encouragement to even just one Native teen or young queer femme or newly plus size mother or anyone else struggling in some way…I will have done what I’m here to do.
I hope you’re doing what gives you joy and you spread it everywhere you go.
Outfit details: Dress: Eloquii | Earrings: Xehar | Shoes: DSW
I moved to New York City in 2010 for graduate school and eventually to work as a news reporter. During my time there I always wanted to snap a Carrie Bradshaw-esque photo on the streets of Manhattan. (You know, the casual t-shirt tucked into the tutu skirt and dainty heels with a statement clutch purse, hailing a cab…all that.)
Well, I finally got my moment while shooting with one of the best photographers I’ve worked with to date, Gregory of M76Photo. Not only is he easy to work with, he makes you feel comfortable and does such an incredible job never over shooting, but still getting the best shots over and over again. It truly was a pleasure to work with him. (We’re definitely collaborating again when I’m in NYC later this week!)
We shot several looks during my recent trip to New York City and this was one of them. I got my Sex and the City moment…with a plus size twist! I styled my look with a shirt I designed myself thanks to Customized Girl. They offer really great prices on custom shirts, hats, underwear, pet clothing, and even items for babies. I made a total of four shirts: two that rep for ChiefofStyle.com, this one, and another that I can’t wait to show you (coming soon)!
To complete my look, I wore this perfect tutu skirt I bought from The Plus Bus, a plus-size retail store that sells new and used clothing. It’s from Anthropologie and it once belonged to plus size style blogger, Alex Michael May. And of course, I had to have a statement clutch. This one was a gift from Roaman’s and I’m absolutely obsessed with it!
Have you had your Carrie Bradshaw moment yet? If not, I suggest you make it happen, whether in NYC or your hometown. If you do, share the link in the bio! It was a lot of fun and I felt like a true fashion diva.
Outfit details: Top: Customized Girl | Skirt: Anthropologie / The Plus Bus | Shoes: Forever 21 | Clutch: Roaman’s
“Self respect, self worth and self love all start with self. Stop looking outside of yourself for your value.” – Rob Liano
Lately, with 90s fashion making a comeback, whenever I go shopping, I’m often nudged down memory lane. When I saw these overalls hanging on the rack at Charlotte Russe+, I immediately recalled childhood memories. As girly as I was, I always loved a good pair of overalls. (I think it was the detailing. It’s always about the details.)
As a nod to a remixed denim staple, I paired these distressed skinny-leg overalls with a cute pair of spotted lace up gladiator heels (another update to an even earlier vintage style), met my photographer on Venice Beach, and shot a few photos. I love pattern mixing and I love how casual-trendy this outfit looks.
How would you style a pair of overalls? Or would you not even dare?
Outfit details: Overalls and Jacket: Charlotte Russe+ | Shoes: Charlotte Russe | Earrings: Amazon | Watch: Marc Jacobs
Photographer: Steven Means (IG: @stevenmeans67)