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2019: My Year of Self-love

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“Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself.” – Unknown

Happy 2019! I know we’re well into March and this is my first blog post of the year. I’d normally feel bad about this, but if you follow me on Instagram you know I’ve been busy…busy working on loving myself more. But not just saying it; really meaning it. I’ve been reading, meditating, reflecting, journaling, dedicating more time and energy into my self-care routine…oh, and doing a “love detox.” (I’ve deleted all of the dating apps from my phone because I’m taking a break from dating altogether.)

The beginning of the year is when most of us are focused on creating goals for our lives, careers, relationships, etc. Whether it’s making a vision board or just a quiet promise to ourselves, many of us make a list of a bunch of things we want to accomplish over the course of the next 12 months. I do it too and my list is usually very, very long. But, 2019 is different. This year, I decided to just make one goal/commitment: to simply loving myself more.

I’ve grown a lot over the past few years, specifically in the acceptance of my body. That’s how I got here and why you’re here, too (whether you know it or not). I started The Chief of Style with the intention of loving every dimple, wrinkle, fat roll, stretch mark and pimple…all of the physical stuff I spent years hating about myself. I’ve come SO far in that journey, but I still have a ways to go when it comes to loving myself. Like, I know I’m great and all, but I keep letting users and abusers into my life and I’m finally over it! I’m done putting everyone else (like the people I’m romantically involved with, in particular) before myself (and even sometimes my closest friends and family). Love is blind in more ways than one and I’ve really let one too many jerks keep me from not only seeing my own worth, but how much other people I care about care about me.

So, I made the decision on Valentine’s Day to stop dating for a while. And, I mean it. I’m going to stop putting all of my love, time, energy and resources into other people (who haven’t even proven they deserve it) and put it into myself. I’m also taking the time to process and face my traumas instead of pretending they never happened. It’s honestly pretty intense and a little scary, but I feel quite certain I will come out this much happier and emotionally healthier and stronger.

Part of my plan for loving myself more is taking myself on dates, treating myself to trips to the spa and destinations near and far and spending more time alone – and enjoying it! I used to do everything for my partner, including wearing sexy lingerie. But, now I’m even doing that for myself.

One of my favorite sources for budget-friendly, flirty lingerie is Yandy. They have beautiful pieces in a wide range of sizes, including plus sizes. I’m absolutely in LOVE with this “Bad Intentions” lingerie gown. It has detachable straps and a high waist panty. Wearing lingerie just for me is officially part of my self-care practice.

If you’re curious about Yandy, you can use my promo code for 20% off: chiefofstyle20

I’m curious…how do you practice self-love? Let me know in the comments! I can’t wait to learn some new tips. 🙂

xo

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style wearing the "Bad Intentions" lingerie gown by Yandy

Thank you to Yandy for sponsoring this post. As always, all views expressed are my own, true opinions.

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My Big Fig Mattress Review

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For those who don’t know (which is probably most, if not all of you), I suffer from lower back pain due to a spine condition called spondylolisthesis. There’s not a single moment during my day when I don’t feel at least some type of discomfort (or excruciating pain) in my lower back (specifically, my L-5, S-1 and S-2). Over the years, the issue with my lower back has contributed to pain felt in my upper back, shoulders, neck and radiating pain down my the backs of my legs. In order to keep the pain at bay, I have to switch my position regularly and take pain medication. That said, my lower back pain has made falling asleep and staying asleep rather difficult.

I’ve purchased three mattresses in my adult life. All of them claimed to be ideal for back pain sufferers, but none of them helped me. Enter the Big Fig mattress

I first heard about Big Fig on Instagram. One of my fellow blogger-friends shared her experience sleeping on a Big Fig and I was curious. I did a little research of my own and I felt cautiously optimistic that this might be the ideal bed for me. So, when I was given the opportunity to try one in exchange for a review and some promotion, I jumped at the chance!

I was admittedly very nervous about trading in my two year-old department store mattress for a Big Fig first and foremost because I never got the chance to try one out to see how comfortable it was. But, I stepped out on faith and hoped and prayed I would like it once it arrived.

Had I known two years ago that I’d have the best sleep of my life on a Big Fig mattress, I would have never bought a department store mattress!

Sleeping on my Big Fig mattress is like sleeping on a cloud, but a supportive cloud that doesn’t make you hot when you sleep (like many memory foam mattresses). Big Fig is made for larger bodies (the name Big Fig comes from “bigger figure”), so it’s a plus size-friendly mattress, but can work for anyone of any size. Some of my favorite features of the Big Fig are:

  • ThermoGel cooling technology which regulates temperature
  • 1600 pocketed coil springs to support the neck and back
  • three layers of high density poly foam for a firm cushion
  • foundation supports 5x the weight of a typical foundation
  • And, all mattresses come with a 20 year warranty!

If you’re on the market for a new mattress (or yours just doesn’t cut it anymore), do yourself a favor and consider investing in a Big Fig mattress. I promise you won’t be sorry!

They even make their mattresses in Twin, Twin XL, Full, Queen King and California King. And, best of all, the process to order a mattress along with their white glove delivery service couldn’t be smoother. From ordering to sleeping, Big Fig gets it right.

They’re currently having a holiday sale for $199 off the cost of a mattress and white glove delivery with code WHITEGLOVE. Why not start 2019 with a good night’s sleep? New year, new you, right?

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style and her Big Fig mattress

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style and her Big Fig mattress

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style and her Big Fig mattress

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style and her Big Fig mattress

 

*Thank you to Big Fig Mattress for sending me a mattress to review. As always, all views expressed are my true and honest opinions.

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Newest Must-have Makeup Brand: Cheekbone Cosmetics

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“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands. One for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” –Audrey Hepburn

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I first heard about Cheekbone Cosmetics the same way I learn about most things these days, through social media. I was interested in the brand once I read that it was created by a First Nations woman from Canada and that 10% of the profits are donated to Indigenous education.

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, reviews Canadian Aboriginal-owned makeup brand, Cheekbone Beauty

So, I decided to reach out and see if they would be interested in sending me some products in exchange for a review. They sent me three matte liquid lipsticks and an eyebrow shaper to try. I was surprised how quickly everything came considering it was shipped from Canada.

I’ve got to be honest. Before opening the package, I was worried.

I hoped and prayed I would like their products because I love supporting Native and Aboriginal businesses, but sometimes the products fall flat. (I really hate it when that happens.)

But that’s not the case with Cheekbone. I fell head-over-heels in LOVE with their liquid lipstick and eyebrow shaper!

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, reviews Canadian Aboriginal-owned makeup brand, Cheekbone Beauty
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Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, reviews Canadian Aboriginal-owned makeup brand, Cheekbone Beauty
Photo courtesy of Cheekbone Beauty

Their liquid lipsticks, in particular, are nothing short of incredible! The formula they use is better than any other wet-to-dry matte lipstick I’ve ever used and I’ve tried them all. (Seriously.) The color lasts for hours (even after eating!), there are no parabens, they’re virtually odor-free and they’re safe for sensitive skin. And, if you like lighter shades you are probably well aware that most brands often look streaky due to subpar formulas. Well, that’s not the case with Cheekbone. The color looks just as it should every time, no matter how much (or how little) you apply. They make about a dozen different shades, so if you’re not sure where to begin, try ASHLEY. It’s my absolute favorite shade and looks amazing on anyone!

They later sent me their highlight palette (Stardust) and their contour palette (Earth). I absolutely adore the highlight palette! The lightest color, in particular, is my jam. The pigment is very rich and provides a really beautiful highlight. I was pleasantly surprised that the contour palette was a perfect match for my skin tone, too.

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, reviews Canadian Aboriginal-owned makeup brand, Cheekbone Beauty
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Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, reviews Canadian Aboriginal-owned makeup brand, Cheekbone Beauty
Photo courtesy of Cheekbone Beauty

If you’ve never heard of Cheekbone, I highly suggest you give the brand a try. What’s more, the products are cruelty free!

Dear Santa, all I want for Christmas is the Cheekbone “Limited Edition Warrior Women” liquid lipstick collection! *prayer hands emoji*

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, reviews Canadian Aboriginal-owned makeup brand, Cheekbone Beauty
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Why not save 10% with my code [chiefofstyle] and give Cheekbone a try!

xo

*Thank you to Cheekbone for sending me products to review. As always, all views expressed are my true and honest opinions.

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Lane Bryant is Having a Major Black Friday Sale!

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One reason I look forward to Thanksgiving every year, besides seeing family and eating delicious food is because it means Black Friday (with all of its glorious sales) is upon us. This year, Lane Bryant is having some amazing deals on all of their brands in-store and online.

Throughout the week of Thanksgiving (11/21 – 11/26), take 40% off storewide and take advantage of can’t-miss these daily door busters! (Click on the links below to visit LB’s website.)

Wednesday (11/21): $15 Tee Shop Tees

Thursday (11/22): Online Only – All Bras $29.50 + Free Shipping Sitewide

Friday (11/23): All Bras $29.50; Select Sweaters $20

Saturday(11/24): All Jeans and Pants $39

Sunday (11/25): LIVI Hoodies $20

Monday (11/26): Online Only – Cacique Panties Buy 3, Get 3 Free, All Sweaters $30, All Boots 50% Off

Here are some shots I took in several of their door buster items.

What pieces are you most looking forward to snagging? I, for one, love LB’s Cacique bras and am OBSESSED with their jeans!! So, if you’re looking for either, I highly recommend you take advantage of this week’s sales!

Happy holiday season!

xo

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Plus size style blogger, The Chief of Style, Amy Stretten, wearing LIVI Cacique and Lane Bryant for Thanksgiving Black Friday sales

Thank you to Lane Bryant for supporting my blog by sponsoring this post.

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Check Out City Chic at Macy’s for Must-have Plus Size Fall Styles

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This post is in partnership with Macy’s and City Chic.

I first heard about plus size Australian brand, City Chic, when I complimented a friend on her dress. It was gorgeous and I hadn’t seen anything like it, so I knew I had to get my hands on their clothing. At the time, I was only able to find City Chic pieces online. (While I love shopping online, I prefer to be able to try on pieces in-store to at least know how the sizing runs.)

Fast forward a couple of years later and now City Chic is available at my local Macy’s store! I’m sure you can imagine my excitement. 🙂

This look that I styled is perfect for Fall. I paired their black and white striped tunic button down blouse with their faux leather leggings. What I really love about this look is how versatile it is. You can wear the tunic as a long blouse, tie it in the front to bring up the hemline and show off your leggings (and maybe even a little skin), layer it under a sweater or jacket, tuck it in or wear it open like a kimono or cardigan…The options are truly endless!

I paired the look with a faux leather jacket and faux suede over the knee boots for a cool, biker-inspired look.

One thing to note about City Chic is how their sizes run. As a plus size babe, I’d never imagine wearing a size Small, but City Chic’s size chart is a little different. I will say that their clothes seem to run very true to size. So, they get an A+ for fit! And now that I can find the brand at my nearest Macy’s store, I’m even more smitten!

Have you ever heard of City Chic? Have you ever tried their clothing? What do you think? Let me know in the comments!

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, wearing plus size Australian clothing City Chic sold at Macys

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, wearing plus size Australian clothing City Chic sold at Macys

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, wearing plus size Australian clothing City Chic sold at Macys

Amy Stretten, The Chief of Style, wearing plus size Australian clothing City Chic sold at Macys

Thank you to Macy’s for sponsoring this post. As always, all views expressed are my own.

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